5 Simple Shifts to Accomplish Your Biggest Dream (Even If You’re a Busy Parent)
Whether you’re starting your own business or writing the next great American novel, you need to hustle to achieve your goals.
But if you’re a parent with children, juggling your dreams and family time can be a bit tricky. After all, raising kids can be a full-time job!
Fortunately, by incorporating a few simple shifts in your life, it is 100% possible to build the life you want without sacrificing precious time with your little ones.
Here are some tips that have made all the difference in my life, and I hope will help you thrive as the fabulous mom you already are while amping up your hustle!
1. GATHER AS MUCH SUPPORT AS POSSIBLE
The saying goes, “It takes a village“, and this couldn’t be truer when it comes to raising kids and having a family.
Think about it; for century’s humans lived in communities, tribes, and villages. They were surrounded by other families to help watch their children when, for example, they were sick. Now if our kids fall ill, chances are we won’t be able to stay cozy in bed without at least making some frantic phone calls!
We no longer have a built-in support system, but that doesn’t mean we can’t create one.
Ask yourself: Who in your life can you develop a mutually supportive relationship with? Is there a way you and a friend, family member, or neighbor can help one another to create “me time” for the both of you? Can you and your spouse take turns with certain errands like picking your kids up from school?
I know sometimes we feel like we need to do everything ourselves, but we don’t. Sometimes we literally can’t, and all of this is okay.
Be a support system for someone else. Doing so will help you get comfortable with the idea of accepting help because you experience how enjoyable it is to give help.
2. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF “IN BETWEEN” MOMENTS
When you start dreaming of something amazing for yourself, it’s normal to want to go all-in at once and create success as soon as possible.
It is great that you’re feeling motivated and pumped up, but remember you don’t have to change the world tomorrow!
Start small and tackle things that you can work on during brief “in-between” moments.
For example, when you’re waiting in line at the post office, while you’re on the train, or even while you’re waiting for the water to boil! You can complete bite-sized action items like respond to emails during those few minutes.
Taking advantage of these moments will prevent you from feeling like you’re behind on your personal goals since every step you take — no matter how small — is bringing you closer to your dreams.
If you only have the weekends, make sure you take advantage of all those moments to work on the small things. They will add up, trust me!
3. CREATE MORE TIME IN THE MORNING OR AT NIGHT
This might be difficult or undesirable, but if you have no time during your regular daytime schedule, then you might need to get more creative in making time for the hustle.
If I have a lot of projects going on, I’ll get up early (before my kids do) so I have that time to work on my goals. Or, I’ll stay up later after I put them to bed.
Again, it’s all about finding those little pockets of time. Once they go to bed, instead of watching TV or zoning out, take advantage of that time. No one said creating the life you want would be easy. This is about hustle after all, right?
4. CLEANSE YOUR LIFE OF EVERYTHING THAT DOESN’T LEAD TO YOUR SUCCESS
Let go of things that don’t contribute to your hustle.
Here’s the thing — if something isn’t getting you closer to your goal, it’s taking you farther away.
Think about everything you do in your day-to-day life and narrow down what things are leading you towards your goals.
Also, this is an excellent time to remind you of one thing you should always make time for, and that’s self-care.
If you want to hustle, your mind, body, and spirit need to be healthy. When you’re unhealthy, you can’t continue the hustle or be there for your family.
Make this a non-negotiable part of your hustle!
5. WHEN YOU’RE PRESENT, ACTUALLY BE PRESENT
When you are spending time with your family, be present with them. Otherwise, you might feel like you don’t have a work-life balance even if you are physically with your family every day.
If I am working hard and I’m driving toward a goal, being present with my family when I’m with them is essential and is what fuels me. This time with them is what keeps me motivated and keeps me going, especially when times get tough.
If I don’t have that quality time with my family, then I wind up getting distracted when I’m trying to work with thoughts like, “Aw man, I miss them, and I want to spend some time with them!” I’m just not as focused.
ACCOMPLISH YOUR BIGGEST DREAMS
Being a parent is without a doubt an unpredictable and time-consuming responsibility, but it doesn’t mean you can’t pursue your own goals, no matter how big they are.
The key is to focus your daily tasks on things that matter (including quality time with the kids and taking care of your mind, body, and spirit.)
Take advantage of all the moments you have to chip away at your dreams little by little. It’s the little things, which are the big things, after all.